(Rolling Prairie, IN) - Every so often tragedy strikes. Lives turn upside down. The rest of us count our blessings. But just as often, down the road somewhere, a silver lining appears.
On August 2, 2011 tragedy struck the Pokuta family of northern La Porte County. Their 17-year-old daughter Lauren was in a serious car accident with six other teenagers. They all walked away, but Lauren wasn’t so lucky.
“The prognosis was not good,” said her father, Michael Pokuta. “She was in a coma for quite a while, in a vegetative state and on a feeding tube, in and out of hospitals and rehab centers for a couple of months.”
Over the past thirteen-and-a-half years, supported by her parents, Lauren has battled back from a traumatic brain injury. “She’s a miracle,” continued Pokuta. “They said that she would never talk again; they didn’t know if she would ever communicate or recognize anybody. She’s broken all the barriers. It’s amazing how resilient she is.”
And now Lauren’s silver lining is shining bright, thanks to the SHARE Foundation in Rolling Prairie. Recently Lauren moved into a home where she can enjoy some independence. It’s located at Sharing Meadows, a residential facility for people with special needs. For years, Pokuta had volunteered at the organization’s annual Leprechaun Hunt, driving tractors around the property. Little did he know what went on there every day, much less that his daughter would one day live there.
Pokuta says the opportunity to use the newly-rehabbed residence has been an answer to prayers. “We’re very excited for Lauren,” he said. “It was our hope and our dream that someday Lauren would be well enough to move out on her own and to have an independent life, rather than living at home with mom and dad. She felt in her heart that she wanted to get out on her own, as well. There never seemed to a right time or a right place. Through the good Lord’s graces, Sharing Meadows came along and provided that for Lauren.”
Lauren has regained enough strength and motor skills to walk, but due to impaired equilibrium, she sometimes needs a wheelchair. As such, the regular facilities at Sharing Meadows couldn’t accommodate her. Sitting on a parcel in between sections of Sharing Meadows property is a ranch-style brick house that would be perfect, but the foundation didn’t own it… until a chance encounter a few years ago changed that.
SHARE Foundation Director Bill Harmon struck up a conversation with another tractor driver at their annual summer fundraiser. “You know, there’s a lot more that happens at a Leprechaun Hunt than just hunting leprechauns,” joked Harmon. He asked the man if he knew who owned the house next door. The volunteer replied that he owned the house, with fifteen acres, and was thinking about getting rid of it. As Harmon recalls, “We didn’t really have the money, but we said, okay, God will provide if this is something that is supposed to happen.”
Apparently it was meant to happen.
“We don’t believe in coincidences at Sharing Meadows,” said Harmon. “Amazingly enough,” he continued, at about the same time, “there was an estate gift that came in for the exact amount of money that we needed to purchase the home and the fifteen acres.”
Harmon says another anonymous donor paid for the house to be renovated. Over the past year, the home’s interior has been updated and reconfigured to be ADA compliant.
“We’re just blessed that she has the opportunity to move into Sharing Meadows and for them to take her under their wing and to give her a new life and a new home,” said Lauren’s dad.
Pokuta and his wife Tonja are themselves facing a major adjustment. They’ve held their daughter’s hand through every step of her recovery. But at some point, every kid leaves the nest, and now it’s Lauren’s turn. “We were very nervous. It’s like a child going off to college for the first time,” admitted Pokuta. “She’s done surprisingly well—better than anyone could have hoped or dreamt.”
As the newest member of the Sharing Meadows family, Lauren isn’t alone. She has a live-in caregiver, as well as a roommate, Tonya, who coincidentally suffered a traumatic brain injury in a car accident many years ago. “They have a bond,” said Harmon. “They can relate together because of the shared experience of what they’ve been through.”
Appropriately, the new Sharing Meadows residence has been nicknamed the “Butterfly House.”
“There’s value in using shared experiences to grow friendships, and that’s what the Butterfly House represents,” said Harmon. “We all have those moments when we’re a caterpillar, but when we find where we belong and that place where we’re accepted, we bloom like a butterfly.”
A walking path cuts through the property, connecting two halves of Sharing Meadows. “We want the Butterfly House to be right in the middle of our community,” said Harmon. “It’s our hope that not only will it be beautiful, but it will encourage everybody to get outside and go on walks and hikes throughout our property.” SHARE Foundation is working on securing a grant to plant wildflowers on the land to attract butterflies.
Meanwhile, two butterflies inside the home are spreading their wings.
SHARE Foundation does not receive government funding and relies on private donations to continue its work. If you would like to support efforts like the Butterfly House, check out https://sharefoundation.org/.